The sweet spot is in the balance

At the gym this morning I was thinking about the perfect balance of alignment, action, and awareness that allows you to manifest what you desire.

When you want to get fit what do you do? 

Do you lay around at home, thinking positive thoughts while eating a tub of mint chocolate chip ice cream and waiting for your hot body to show up?

Probably not.  If you’ve tried it you’ve found it doesn’t work that well for most of us.

You know that it requires some action on your part.

Okay, let’s take action.

So do you head to the gym on a whim, throw some weights around for a few minutes and then head home to consume that tub of ice cream?

Again, probably not.

Because you also know it requires some planning.

It isn’t just action that’s important, it’s the right action at the right time.

So you come up with a plan.

You decide what types of workouts you’re going to do and when you’re going to do them.

You decide what you’re going to eat and when you’re going to eat it.

You decide how and when you’re going to track your progress.

Great, you have a plan.

Now you take the action.

You do the workouts.

You prep and eat the food.

You track your progress.

And you continue to take action until you see results because you also know consistency is important.  Changing your diet and exercising for a week isn’t going to get you those six pack abs.

So what if you follow your plan for four weeks only to find you’ve gained 20 pounds?

Will you keep going with the same plan for another six months hoping for a better result?

Probably not.

Instead you change up the plan and see what happens, monitoring your progress and adjusting as needed until you see that six pack.




The trifecta of manifestation.

The trifecta of life.

We are all powerful co-creators but so many of us are missing one or more of the pillars of the triangle.

It isn’t always the same pillar.

Sometimes we bounce from pillar to pillar hoping something sticks.  We focus on action for awhile, then fall back into working on our energetic alignment without listening to the nudges to take action.  Or we get so attached to our plan we’re unable to see what isn’t working and adjust.

The sweet spot is in the balance.

Find your balance.

Be the observer of yourself and your patterns.  And adjust from there.

If you can’t see it then find someone who can.

For your body get a workout program, hire a trainer, purchase healthy meals from a food delivery company.

For your mind read a book, purchase a program, find an accountability partner, hire a coach or find a mentor.

For your soul listen to a podcast, find a spiritual mentor, go to a retreat, hire a healer.

Whatever feels right for you, do that.

But remember that nothing changes by sitting on the couch eating that tub of mint chocolate chip ice cream while wishing that things were different.


Little girl

There once was a little girl.  She believe in magic.  In fairies flitting in the forest.  In guardian angels looking over us.  She believed in her place in the world.  She believed we are all meant for something.  She believed she could do anything, that nothing was impossible.

The little girl moved through the world with an open heart and a fearless step for she knew all people are love, light, and support.

Sometimes the little girl would encounter puzzling things.  Things that seemed in opposition of her view of the world.  But the little girl was sure the world was safe and beautiful and so she persisted with a skip in her step and a song in her heart.

But as the girl grew she had more and more experiences that made her pause.  And over time they started to change her.

She trusted less and questioned more.

She skipped less and watched more.

She tested her way through the world, waiting and watching to see the reactions.

Little by little she closed off parts of herself because they were dumb, childish, stupid, or weird.  Because they were lame, selfish, ridiculous, or impossible.

Over time the girl was no longer sure who she was.

She knew she still loved people but she was afraid of them.

She knew humanity was born of love but she saw so much hate.

She knew there was so much more available but she had no idea how to access it.

As the girl grew her heart hurt.  She had many life experiences, amazing and terrible and everywhere in between, but she never felt complete.

Slowly she realized she was no longer herself, whoever that was.

The girl knew in her heart that this was not how she was supposed to feel.

So the not so little girl made a choice to find another way.

And the not so little girl dug and searched and ran and fell and jumped and cried and wondered and laughed and lost and never gave up until she skipped again.

What she found was not at all what she expected.

Buried under all the years.  Under all the experiences, traumas, learnings, and life she found the little girl who had been right there all along.  And the not so little girl realized that she was not here to be shaped by the opinions and beliefs of others.

She had never been intended to follow the path of another…for she was the lighthouse.

And off she went into the world shining light into the darkness.



Some days I’m tired.

Some days I just don’t want to.

I’ve reinvented myself more times than I can count.  I’ve had little breakthroughs and major ones.  I’ve created a pretty amazing life and I’m proud of who I have become.

But I know I’m not done.

I know I am meant to do more.

I know I am meant to be more.

I know I am meant to experience more.

I know I am meant to teach more.

But some days I’m tired.  Some days I question my sanity.  Some days I wonder if its really worth it.

Because it would be so much easier if I was just content with where I’m at.

It would be so much easier if I didn’t care as much.

It would be so much easier if I didn’t feel as much.

It would be so much easier if I didn’t feel inspired to be more.

But I do.

Do you ever feel that way?

Do you know you are here to do big things but you aren’t sure of the next step?

Do you feel a calling in your soul but it just feels too hard sometimes?

Do you feel pulled to expand more but question your sanity?

Do you desire to make an impact but you just don’t know how?

If this sounds like you I’m talking to you.

The world needs more leaders.

More lighthouses.

More examples.

It is worth it.  Even when we are tired or confused or unsure of ourselves.

Even when we lack confidence, or feel distracted, or don’t have a clue what to do next.

If this is you…

I see you.

I feel you.

I love you.

I am here for you.

You aren’t in this alone.

Let’s chat about how I can support you on your journey to being the beautiful leader you are destined to become.

Don’t give up.  You’ve got this.


There is a different way


That used to be me.

I was desperate to be happy.

Desperate to feel worthy.

Desperate to be content.

Desperate to feel like I wasn’t alone.

I had a beautiful life.  It was circumstances, it was me.  I was so disconnected from the real me I had no idea how to feel good.

I was searching for the cure.  It had to be out there.  I just had to find the right book, the right teacher, the right job, the right amount of money, the right diet.

If only my husband would take out the garbage.  Or if my kids would appreciate me more.  Or my coworkers would quit being such a pain.

But you know what I figured out after years of working on it?  It was always me.  And I had the power to fix it all along.  I just didn’t have the ability to see that.

It makes my heart hurt to think of how many people are living in this near constant state of hurt, sadness, disappointment, and shame.

I wish I could pull the blindfold off of humanity all at once.


You get to be you in all your amazing, messy, beautiful glory.

You get to decide how you feel in the moment.

You get to laugh and love and dance and run and serve.

You get to be fully supported in everything you desire.

It is all there for you.

But how?

By tapping into the true version of you.

By letting all of the hurt and stories and beliefs about the world and yourself go.

By deciding you what you really desire and understanding that you are deserving.

By standing still in silence for five minutes and listening to your intuition.

Just stop for a minute and listen.  You might be amazed at what you hear.



Another breakthrough

The title of this post might make it seem like this was no big deal.

Just another breakthrough.

But that would be misleading.

It was (and is) a very big deal indeed.

You see, it opened my eyes in a big way.

There was nothing truly remarkable about the day, that I can remember.  It was last Tuesday.  Something someone had said to me a few weeks earlier kept running through my mind.  It was on my heart in a way that kept me wondering what they had meant.

You see, this person had made a comment about feeling me pull the energy away from a project we had been discussing.  I had been letting them know that I didn’t currently have the money to invest in the project that we had been discussing.

It was true that I didn’t have the money in hand.

It was also true that I didn’t want to be tying up their business resources when I couldn’t hold up my end of the bargain.

That little comment kept coming up for me, surrounded by curiosity about what it actually meant.

That Tuesday I followed the little nudge that suggested I reach out and ask what they had meant.

The conversation that unfolded led to one of the biggest breakthroughs of my life.

It wasn’t really that what was said was new or different.

It wasn’t that there was some super secret information revealed that I had never had access to before.

It wasn’t that the person I was talking to knew things I didn’t (although it is entirely likely that is possible).

It was that I was open and receptive to the learnings that were available to me in that moment.

I recognized in that moment that I HAD pulled the creative power out of that project.  How?  I had become so focused on the money (or lack of it) that the energy I was directing was no longer about building something amazing to offer the world.  Instead I was directing all of my creative energy at reinforcing the lack of money.  I was saying to the universe that there was no way this project was going to happen because I was incapable of paying for it.

I became aware of the fact that I had all of that energy at my disposal.  I saw the power we all have within us.  And I recognized that many of us are using that power to create exactly what we do not want, just as I was in that instance.

I truly am an all powerful, divine, creative being.  And so are you.

I realized I had been giving that power away by expecting someone else had all the knowledge, answers, tips, tricks, and secrets and that if I could just learn the right combination of things all the wonders of the universe would open to me.

I had been allowing my feelings of doubt, fear, lack, and unworthiness keep me from stepping into my power.  I wasn’t willing or able to declare what I desired, to own who I was, and to speak from that authentic place.

I was as afraid to succeed as I was to fail.

I wasn’t willing to trust myself and my power.

Sure, I was sharing authentically, but not the fullest expression of me.  I was dimming down my message and what I was offering the world.

I’m done with that.

Some people won’t like me.  Some people will think I’m nutty.  Some people will question my motivations.  Some people will be too scared to play full out with me.  And that’s ok.

I owe it to myself and my soul tribe to share the fullest expression of me.

And so do you.

You have everything you need inside of you too.  We all do.