Bliss

THE POWERFUL ART OF REPARENTING OURSELVES

In March of 2019, I became a trained facilitator of Inner Child Healing as part of my Quantum Healing Certification.

At the time I had no idea what Inner Child Healing was but I felt deeply drawn to learn.  And I’m grateful I did.

I use it consistently with my 1-on-1 clients.  Why?  Because it allows us to get to the root of the problem, behavior, or belief that is keeping my clients from being the fully embodied, badass, abundant, and free leaders they are meant to be right now.

So much of the coaching and personal development work is only addressing symptoms.  But true lasting transformation comes from addressing the root, often buried deep in your subconscious.  

With this process, we can do that almost instantly.

But what is it?  

It’s a powerful rewiring experience where together we identify the initial experience that caused you to form a part of your identity and embody the core beliefs that support it.  The part of your identity that is solidly holding on to limitations as a way of reaffirming its existence.

Once we identify the initial experience, I bring you safely back through it and together we rewrite history.  We reframe the situation to shift your identity in support of the behavior or outcome you desire.

For example, let’s say you have a fear of public speaking and it’s holding you back from realizing your dream of being a transformational author and speaker.

You think you’re afraid of public speaking because it’s scary. But actually, you’re afraid of public speaking because you believe that people who put themselves in the spotlight are show-offs, which is something you definitely don’t want to be.

 Why?  Because when you were 3 you put on a show for your family and at the height of your excitement, when you were looking to your family for their approval and enjoyment, what you actually got was your mother telling you to quit being a show-off.   That good girls are seen and not heard.

Ouch.

At that formative age, you created a core belief (because of course your mother is always right, she’s an adult) that being the center of attention is bad and it means there is something wrong with you. With that core belief ingrained you formed a part of your identity that does everything she can to avoid being a show-off, who doesn’t feel comfortable being in front of people, and who subconsciously judges others who do because that’s not what good girls do.

Never getting on that stage fills your need for your mother’s approval AND reaffirms your identity as a good girl.

Now, as an adult, it doesn’t matter how many speaking coaches you hire, affirmations you repeat in the mirror, or years you spend in your local chapter of Toastmasters,  none of that will change your fear of public speaking.  You will always feel wrong, even if you do manage to get on that stage. 

Why?  Because you aren’t doing anything to address the cause of your fear.  

But, if instead, you go back to that moment when you were standing in the living room, singing your heart out, only to have it crushed, and you help 3 year old you process what happened in a way that helps her see that being the center of attention isn’t bad. That, in fact, what your mom said has more to do with her own insecurities than it does with who YOU are as a person then we fundamentally rewire your personality.  We change who you are, who you have always been.

And we set you free from the fear.

That’s when public speaking seems like something that has always come easy to you.

The majority of our limitations and insecurities come from our childhood. 

And often they were created in seemingly innocuous moments, moments we hardly remember. 

By going back to the root of the issue and safely and intentionally rewriting history we can become a better version of ourselves and leave those limitations behind for good.

When done right it can work for anything.

That’s why I’m in love with it.  I’ve seen the success of Inner Child Healing firsthand.

With myself.

With my clients.

It is an unbelievably powerful tool for making massive shifts with minimal effort and finally allowing yourself to be the version of yourself that doesn’t let fear, limitation, or doubt stand in her way.